Monday, June 27, 2011

Tips: Face Saving, itulah orang melayu.

face-saving ;)

Assalamualaikum

Hari ni bukan nak mengarut atau nak mendongeng pasal diri sendiri, hari ni nak bercerita pasal face-saving we Malaysian selalu buat, before that, do you know what face-saving is? Face saving (or saving face) refers to maintaining a good self image. People who are involved in a conflict and secretly know they are wrong will often not admit that they are wrong because they don’t want to admit they made a mistake. They therefore continue the conflict, just to avoid the embarrassment of looking bad. If you guys dont get it, hurm macam ni la kiranya face-saving, perhatikan dialog dibawah:

si A: "eh bole tak ak nak pinjam kereta ko hari nie?"
si B: berfikir sejenak, eh berjenak jenak jugak la, pastu menjawab " erk, aku ada keje la kejap lagi"
si A: "owh kalau macam tu xpa la ye, thanks taw"

lalu si A pon berlalu pegi dengan perasaan hampa lagi sebak lah, xdapat merewang, si B lak bermonolog, "fuh lega, leceh la nak bagi pinjam kete kat orang laen nie"

So guys, you got the message? kalau tak dapat jugak, then it's not my fault lah, since I've clearly stated the situation above. Actually talking about face saving nie, its kinda of you are avoiding something and at the same time cuba mahu menjaga air muka masing masing lah. Itulah melayu atau pon Malaysia, itulah budaya kita dan kita di didik macam tu la. For those who still don't understand it, I give u another example la eh;

Gadis A : "happy birthday , ni I hadiahkan u hadiah yang tak seberapa nie "
Gadis B : "terima kasih"

lalu bercakap lah mereka, tanpa gadis B membuka hadiah tersebut, dalam kes ni, gadis B cube menjaga air muka gadis A, khuatir hadiah yang dibuka tu tidak memenuhi kehendak, maka decided not to open the present in front of her friend la, takut terpancar wajah ketidak puasan hati kerana dapat hadiah yang tak seberapa tu, as u can see, the first dialog is all about jaga air muka sendiri, for the second situation, jaga air muka kawan .

Face-saving ni adalah baik kadang kala nye, but for certain situation tu it is not necessarily la tu apply face saving nie, as we can see lah kan, most western culture, they didn't apply face-saving thingy nie, example when they are in classroom, when teacher is saying something wrong about the topic, the student dengan tidak malunya akan interrupt the session and correct the teacher la, but in Malaysia, we are not allowed to do that, u can see the different ? because we Malaysia, tend to think it's a rude thing to be done lah kan, but for them it's norm la since it's for the betterment la katakan. We were told that the country who's having very high degree of face -saving adalah Thailand. We don't know in details about it, but we believed it that way la since we were told by senior lecturer, he surely did his study well la kan, if not he wont be saying like that.

However we can find some cases dimana Malaysian tak mengamalkan face-saving nie, seperti when we lepak with our bestfriend la kan, we tend to tell them that there's something wrong in their faces, that's because relationship that we are having tu, xmembataskan cara pergaulan kita. Sebab dah terlalu rapat, we dont mind about jaga air muka lah dengan mereka. Haa begitulah gamaknye.

So, that's all for now kot, and sudah semestinye la me myself pon ber-face-saving jugak kadang kadang, air muka mesti mau jaga maaaa, innit?

p/s: don't be shocked if you go to oversea, diorang maen hentam atas muka, sebab diorang memang xkisah la about face-saving thingy ni :)

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